Is ego our enemy or friend?
“The ego is the worst confidence trickster we could ever imagine.” — Dr. Yoav Dattilo.
“The ego is a way of organizing oneself; it comes from the intellect as the mind starts to click in.” — Mark Epstein
We usually associate the word ‘ego’ with being arrogant, proud, or selfish. However, our ego is a different thing — it magnifies either our best or worst side. That’s why the ego is the worst confidence trickster: we end buying the exaggerated version of ourselves.
SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 15, 2019
When someone you loved is no more shed tears of joy, not of grief
“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.“– Kahlil Gibran
“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” – Kenji Miyazawa
"It is important for us to know that we and those around us are not going to be here forever.
This may sound brutal, but that is not the intention. It is very important to come to terms with these things. Otherwise, we will tell ourselves pretty things that will solace us for today, and tomorrow morning, reality will torment us again. We will do the same things again and again.
SATURDAY, AUGUST 1, 2015
Do you embody yourselves with love and forgiveness that truly clothes you with spiritual light?
Being good and doing good in the world is living gracefully with a purpose. Forgiving ourselves and others continuously - without getting caught in the senses (which normally lie to the mind) or our ego - is the highest action one can commit awesomely while embodied with the Divinity in us.
By living in Love and Forgiveness, we can ensure that the Spiritual Light of God does shine on the Earth; where there is Light, there cannot be darkness.
SUNDAY, JULY 5, 2015
Can you shun your anger for constructive purposes? Find out......
In my earlier post regarding anger I have tried my best to draw your attention to the consequences of anger. In this post you will discover the prime facets of your character hidden in your anger which you can turn around to build the strategies benefiting you.
Anger as an emotion can be both constructive and destructive. When it is constructive it can spur us into motion and lead us to prove the other person wrong the right way without
hurting his or her self-esteem.
hurting his or her self-esteem.
How do you deal with your anger? Do you explode?
"The embarrassment after the anger is biggest humiliation a person can experience."
"How do you deal with your anger? Do you explode? Does everyone around you know when and why you are angry? Or are you more subtle? Do you get irritated and short with those around you? Do you gossip and complain about your spouse, children, coworkers, and friends? What makes you angry?
SUNDAY, JUNE 28, 2015
Discover how to practice honesty and integrity!
"Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people." ~ Dennis Prager
"Someone asked for opinions about the difference between integrity and honesty. Honesty and integrity are linked but while honesty relies heavily on facts and objective information or situations, integrity relies more on subjectivity and circumstances in which a person finds himself, knowing how to behave or react in order to retain integrity and good will and meet expectations.
TUESDAY, JUNE 9, 2015
I believe that the inherent human quest for love and happiness is itself the greatest proof of God's existence within us.
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ~ Paulo Coelho
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~ Maya Angelou
“The religions of the world are like the separate fingers and are quite distinct from each other. But if you trace them to their
SUNDAY, MAY 24, 2015
The truly great are those who know their weaknesses and aren't afraid to admit them.
ONLY THE STRENGTH THAT YOU CAME TO POSSESS BY DIVINE INTERVENTION CAN TAKE YOU TO THE PLACES YOU DESERVE!
“When one realises the infinite greatness and glory of God, where is there room for self-pride? Only by whose nod the heaven, earth and sea obey eternal laws should be called King"
"Some people are compulsive exhibitionists. You can find them almost anywhere; they would do anything to get noticed. At a wedding, they want to be the bride and at a funeral, the corpse.
SUNDAY, MAY 3, 2015
Does pursuit of the things that we so desire result in lasting happiness?
“True religion is real living; living with all one's soul, with all one's goodness and righteousness.” ~ Albert Einstein
“The values a man must cherish as his life-breath are, Truth, Righteousness, Peace, Love and Non violence.” ~ Sri Sathya Sai Baba
DOES PURSUIT OF THE THINGS THAT WE SO DESIRE RESULT IN LASTING HAPPINESS?
SATURDAY, MAY 2, 2015
Honestly, are you living a life that fills you with enthusiasm and passion?
“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”~ Mother Teresa
“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.”~ Mother Teresa
SUNDAY, APRIL 26, 2015
Don’t be conditioned to loose...my dear friend!
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
“There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances
TUESDAY, APRIL 21, 2015
Have I ever felt lonely before? Have I ever been alone before? These are often the questions we ask ourselves.
“We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.” ~ Orson Welles
“The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” ~ Mother Teresa
“Have I ever felt lonely before? Have I ever been alone before? These are often the questions we ask ourselves or rather feel when faced with grief and losses in life, of course, that includes me too! In fact, I have been leading a solitary life for the past 23 years or so, after my relationship with my wife turned sour and finally split when she left me with my daughter and son. For the first few years, I did feel unhappy with the sudden turn of events that changed the course of my life, from being a loving father and a loyal husband to a nonentity to everyone in my family, except my parents. It was my parents who stood stoically with me, consoling and encouraging me to live life with a purpose. And I thank them for lifting me up from the depression I was sinking into when I was being torn with grief and emotional pain. I have lost my father in 1995 and my mother passed away 5 years later. I miss them very much but not their love for me. And thus I endeavored to walk the solitary path alone in my life, which most of them would abhor naturally, they were social in nature.
Somehow I fell in love with being alone, for I got more time to indulge myself in my favourite past times, like day-dreaming, reading, writing, cooking, gardening and now exploring life to the fullest. I loved being alone and still, love it more than ever.
They say, sailing at night out on the ocean, following the full moon in the countryside is a spiritual experience. While for me biking through the hilly terrain is magical, riding my motorcycle up and down the Brigade road is exhilarating, sometimes even doing a cross country between two states in India ups my adrenalin and reading books by my favourite authors or even listening to Indian classical music or old English country songs till the wee hours of the morning are some of the very things I love doing alone and none of that would have been possible if someone else had been there with me. People create noise in your head that we all need to escape from time to time. I know I do. And that is what I love……..to be alone.
Unfortunately lately, I fell sick and many of my friends would have noticed the recent absence of my ‘Sunday Soliloquy’s column. It is then; I realized that with ‘Alone’ comes the dreaded ‘Loneliness’. Being sick with typhoid for a longer duration than I expected, two months precisely and no one to tend to me, I felt that no one cared for me or so. The whole world became dark for me as if I have been cast to oblivion with a shroud upon me. Someone once said that loneliness is not simply a matter of feeling alone, but rather the feeling that no one cares what happens to you. We have all felt lonely sometime in our lifetime. Feelings of rejection and abandonment are common to all of us creating fear of unwanted in our minds.
Loneliness is caused by many things: the death of loved one, divorce or separation, a broken engagement, a career loss or change or a move from one city or country to another can all make us feel lonely. Leaving what is comfortable and familiar and moving into the unknown can be lonely. Loneliness is a tragedy; it is heartbreak and hardship and hurt. Loneliness is being covered in open wounds and scars that never heal. Loneliness, after the loss of a loved one, is a depressing, devastating emotional catastrophe. Some people will try anything to break through the "wall of loneliness." Others just wait, hoping the wall will collapse so they can escape. The waiting period becomes an "isolation ward."
There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I have always rather enjoyed the former; the latter is miserable. Being alone is choosing to stand a little apart, to enjoy one's own company and the company of things - books, nature, thoughts, music, silence - rather than people. loneliness is not a choice, it is rejection; it is what happens when you no longer want to be alone, but no one will enter your little corner of the world to keep you company - and the knowledge proceeds to poison the kind of aloneness you might otherwise, enjoy, because you are no longer choosing it, it is being forced on you by your own invisibility.
In today's society, there is a strong trend towards separation. Looking at statistics I found that more and more relationships are crumbling at breakneck speed. More and more people are becoming permanently alone. In surveys, about 10 percent of singles perceive themselves to be happy, 40 percent feel unhappy, and 50 percent see themselves in the middle. For people who are in a partnership, up to 40 percent feel happy, 10 percent unhappy and 50 percent place themselves in between feeling happy and unhappy.
These results show that people respond differently to loneliness. Some people feel happy as singles, some unfortunate; most live in the area between. However, there are four times more unhappy single people than people in a partnership. And most singles suffer from loneliness. So how do you cope in this situation?
The following steps work for both singles and people in relationships. Also, it's important to recognize that even people in relationships can feel lonely sometimes. Working toward ‘Inner Happiness’, can benefit each of us, especially singles who perceive being alone as a source of unhappiness.
So how can we go about and overcome these failings? Here they are broken down into easy practices:
1. Process the loss of your partner. The first major step towards leading a positive single life is to overcome the loss of a former partner. Most people have had one or more relationships. The longer these relationships have lasted, and the more intense they were, the longer is the time needed to process through the sadness and negative emotions associated with the loss. Live your grief completely. If you repress your grief, it will dig further into your subconscious. Subconsciously, most of us long for a happy, enduring relationship. It helps to look at the thoughts present inside. Cry over your loss and reflect on the essence of life, so that you may come back to positive thoughts again. And how you do that? Get over the situation by directly confronting it. Talk with other trustworthy people about your suffering.
2. Think Positively. The way of positive thinking is to think about the meaning of life, to focus on positive goals and to overcome grief with positive thoughts and phrases.
3. Meditate. The way of meditation allows all of our thoughts and feelings to come out. Let your thoughts and feelings come and go at will. Just observe. Leave them be until they settle of their own accord.
4. Connect meditation and positive thinking. If we only meditate, we can easily sink into sadness. Positive thinking can lead to the suppression of sorrowful thoughts and inner tensions. If we make room to connect both meditation and positive thinking at the same time, our tensions will resolve. Inner happiness appears.
5. View single life as an opportunity rather than as a curse. Consider your single life as an opportunity for intensive growth to inner happiness. Make the path of inner happiness the center of your life while this chance exists. There are many people among couples who would jump at such freedom! The person who sees things clearly focuses things right in life. And then the single life suddenly becomes a godsend. Being lonely gives you the freedom to take rests. Allowing your rest periods to connect with regular spiritual practice lights up your way to enlightenment. Remember that deep inner happiness (enlightenment) is difficult to achieve when you live in a relationship.
6. Develop a spiritual plan for each day. A spiritual plan is the means for being victorious over boredom and the loss of meaning of life. With a spiritual plan in place, your days are now filled. Having such a schedule gives your single life a positive structure. It gives you inner strength and positivity, and you live based on positive goals. Thus, you will become internally positive.
7. Spend a part of your day in various phases of spiritual practice. Feelings such as loneliness, boredom, and meaninglessness are caused by internal tensions. These tensions block the energy of your happiness (enlightenment energy). Everyone has enlightenment energy within. Find spiritual exercises like yoga, walking, meditation, reading, and positive thinking (cognitive work) that can awaken your happiness every day. Go for it!
8. Distribute your spiritual exercises over the day. Doing so will ensure that your tensions dissolve, you became care-free, hurt fades, past associations become painless giving you multiple opportunities to awaken your happiness energy, and bringing you into the light.
9. Practice Karma yoga. The main practice of Karma Yoga is to send light to all beings every day through your words and deeds. Connect yourself with your friends every day. Connect yourself with all beings who touch you emotionally. Think their names. Move a hand and send them love and light. Send light all over the globe. Wish for all people in the word to be happy. It allows you to overcome your loneliness and go on to a deeper level to get into the energy of the all-comprehensive love. Wish happiness to all beings. In your mind, you are already seeing the goal of a happy world realized. Live with a positive vision; this gives you the power for a positive life. Your positive vision opens the gates of happiness within you. Wish for a happy world. Wish a happy cosmos. Breakthrough your isolation as a single. Live in constant emotional contact with all other beings in the world. At some point, you’re feeling of loneliness will disappear and YOU will become the embodiment of SELFLESS – LOVE itself. An entity is full of love, which will not only give but also receive love, like the mirror that receives and reflects light. Yes, a miracle of love itself will manifest in you, always capable of propagating compassion and kindness to others in the world you are living in.
Living alone is the hardest way of life. It is difficult for most of us to live alone. But life as a single person gives us a big chance to attain enlightenment. Use this chance; realize yourself and become an enlightened single. Enlightenment is a great grace for all singles. You are not lost. You can also get enlightenment in a relationship. Be satisfied that living alone usually offers significantly a greater chance of reaching the goal. You can live permanently as a single person in a happiness that is unimaginable for ordinary people. Let me tell you this……the main happiness of a human being is his or her inner happiness, and 90 percent of all happiness is derived from inner happiness, and this determines how happy a person is in life. Loneliness if accepted becomes a gift leading one from a life dominated by tears to the discovery of one's true self and finally to the heart of longing and the love of God. Can you override your grief and pain to happiness for the sheer love of God and your well being? I promise you can.
While wishing all the best, I send warm hugs with divine love spiritual lights, joy and peace all the way from me!
Anthony Sunny Kunneth.
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WEDNESDAY, APRIL 15, 2015
Change Your Story, Change Your Perception, Change Your Life!
PERCEPTION AND REALITY OF YOUR LIFE:
"Our conscious perception of the world, though relatively stable, is not static. We are incapable of being fully objective, even in our most mundane observations and impressions. Our awareness of the objects around us is informed and fine-tuned by any number of transient factors—our strength and energy levels, our sense of confidence, our fears and desires.
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” ~ Albert Einstein
“Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” ~ Douglas Adams
THURSDAY, APRIL 2, 2015
When you knew how to speak, what was your first word? It is Mom
“My mother said I must always be intolerant of ignorance but understanding of illiteracy. That some people, unable to go to school, were more educated and more intelligent than college professors.” ~ Maya Angelou
“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
"When you knew how to speak, what was your first word? It is Mom. We have grown up in the arms of our mothers. We have grown up in the great love of our mothers. No one loves us like our mothers; no one is willing to sacrifice everything for us like
SATURDAY, MARCH 28, 2015
Your dedication will not be a sacrifice. It will be an exhilarating experience.
“Every charitable act is a stepping stone toward heaven.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher
“The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.” ~ Hade Bejar
“When we talk about values, I think of love, fairness, kindness, generosity and tolerance occupying the top of my list. That’s something I value and hold in high esteem rather than things like going to church, attaining higher education, voting for Bush, being loyal to Jesus, praying. These are not values. These are mere camouflage
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 18, 2015
How many times dressed in our best attires we have pictured ourselves in front a mirror? And what did you see?
"There is more in us than we ever known. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives we will be unable to settle for less". ~ Kurt Hahn
"How many times dressed in our best attires we have pictured ourselves in front a mirror? Probably we don’t remember the number of times we have done that and probably we were not aware of the beautiful soul that
FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 20, 2015
The important thing is not to be bitter over life's disappointments
"The important thing is not to be bitter over life's disappointments. Learn to let go of the past. And recognize that every day won't be sunny, and when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair remember it's only in the black of night you see the stars. And those stars will lead you back home. So don't be afraid to make mistakes, or stumble and fall, because most
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 10, 2015
Love, compassion and kindness are the hallmark of a true brotherhood which unfortunately is missing in today's world
"Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me." ~ from The Holy Bible
Being a Christian, Muslim, Hindu or a Buddhist is more than something you claim. It's something you live by and share with others. Love, compassion and kindness are the hallmark of a true brotherhood which unfortunately is missing in today's world, irrespective of any religion that one belongs to. Let us rise to the grand occasion of building brotherhood among us rather than building religious faith, for that's the real pillar of humanity and peace on earth.
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THURSDAY, JANUARY 15, 2015
Think before you speak, ask before you judge........Before every action there is a wise step that should be taken
“Think before you speak, ask before you judge, do before you preach and pray before you start.
Before every action there is a wise step that should be taken.”
A heart rending absorbing story about a depressed boy, named Teddy Stoddard, who lost his mother at a tender age that you would love to read:
SATURDAY, JANUARY 10, 2015
"A thing of beauty is a joy for ever: Its loveliness increases; it will never Pass into nothingness." - John Keats
"We live only to discover beauty. All else is a form of waiting." – Kahlil Gibran
“I love people who don’t try to be anything else other than what they are. Part of what I do, do not deal with being theatrical and changing identities quite a lot. And I love people who just don’t invest in any
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