How many times did people who barley knows you judge you?

“There is so much good in the worst of us, And so much bad in the best of us, that it hardly become any of us to talk about the rest of us.” ~ Anonymous

“Judging others makes us blind, whereas love is illuminating. By judging others we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are.” ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Everyday people judge others by what they do, how they act, how they dress, and the list goes on and on. Judging others doesn’t only happen


based on looks but rather it extends to include the way people dress, walk, talk or behave. I think it is horrible we live in a society where so many people who are typical hypocrites. We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.

How many times have you formed an impression of someone even before you got to know him or her well? How many times did people who barley knows you judge you? How many times you felt bad because you were judged or misunderstood?

There is only one way to help yourself form the correct impression of people without being affected by your past which is to examine the impression you formed of them and find whether it’s real or whether it’s based on your own past experience. Note that things are never going to be that obvious, for example, you won’t find a man looking just like your old boss and then realize that this is the reason you are considering him arrogant but instead there are going to be some small signs that remind your subconscious mind of similar people.

Be it the way the person talks, walks or the clothes he wears, still each of these elements can affect your thoughts and let you judge him incorrectly. Keep an open eye for these clues, understand your past, its connection with your present and know that looks are deceiving. When you look at someone for the first time you don’t just see his looks or body language but in fact, you also see a reflection of your past and old experiences.

Most judgments of others are ego strategies to avoid uncomfortable feelings. However, if you lack the awareness of where they come from, they can lead to even more discomfort down the line. Each encounter with others offers you the gift of greater self-awareness by illustrating what you do and which you yourself don’t accept about yourself.

Most judgments of others stem from one of three basic causes:
1. You wouldn’t tolerate the same behavior or characteristic in yourself.
2. You display the same behavior and aren’t aware of it so you project your disowned behavior onto others and dislike it “out there.”
3. You are envious and resent the feelings that come up so you find something wrong with those who have what you want and end up judging them.

If you wise enough, an honest exploration or analysis will show you that the reactions you have in judging others give you more information about yourself than about them. Since inspiration is a much more effective motivator than competition, you’d be more likely to experience success if you got inspired by other people’s victories instead of wasting time finding fault with them. When you explore beliefs and assumptions instead of judging people, you open a door to expanded self-awareness and self-acceptance. Rather than unconsciously delighting in the ego gratification of judging others, you let your reactions and judgments help you achieve greater self-understanding of your own Self —and accordingly, greater happiness and success.

When you use your judgment of others as a mirror to show you the workings of your own mind, every person’s reflection can become a valuable gift, making each person you encounter a teacher and a blessing. The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Never judge others for attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. 

They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe. More than two thousand years ago mankind was admonished by the Great Master and the world’s most famous Spiritual Teacher, Jesus thus: “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.” ~ Matthew 7:1-5

How true those words are still reigning in the modern world?