What to do when you get betrayed? Should you forgive and move on?

SUNDAY SOLILOQUY:

"Betrayal can only happen when there is love and trust.  For in the act of love, we let people into the most intimate aspect of our hearts, letting down our walls and protections.  That’s when we risk hurt and betrayal but that’s also the place of utter love.

Whenever I felt betrayed by people I love, for it can only be triggered by those we love, I was left with a very confused feeling.  The shift from a place of love to a place of hurt and anger triggered by betrayal is a radical shift over a short period of time.  It feels like an earthquake has shaken the foundation of your love and it leaves one desperately trying to grab on to any solid land to get a grip of what has just happened.  I usually grab the land of sorrow first, then anger, then disappointment.  Eventually, I realize that all of these feelings eat my heart from within and I come to the realization that the only way out is through love.  But love? Really? You may wonder how one can transform the pain of betrayal into love.  I too did not believe it could happen at first but now I do.

Betrayal for me is the act of not being loyal when other people believe they are loyal. I see it simply as the lack of courage at being truthful to oneself or to others.  Betrayal for me is not in the act of abandonment but in the lack of ability to communicate the truth, one’s truth, with integrity and grace to those we love.  Only when we tell the truth can there be true healing. 

I am almost 70 years old and I only felt betrayal 2 times in my life.  That’s twice in seven decades. Not bad when compared to many who have been cheated many times. I have a hard time believing people we love do things out of meanness.  Hurt can only come out of hurt.  Maybe I am wrong, maybe not, and maybe there are exceptions to this theory. If I understood the feeling that triggered the person I loved so much to violate my space in such a painful way I could have been provided a lee way to grasp it better. And that’s when I started wondering if I have ever betrayed myself first? When have I betrayed myself?  I started asking.  What were those moments?  What triggered me to betray myself? 

That’s when things started shifting from seeing any point of betrayal from inside out to seeing it from within the self. Embarking on this journey is the toughest. It is not easy to discover what I really needed to discover, heal, love and accept about myself. When I took the inward journey for the discovery I learned that I have always tried to protect my vulnerabilities by creating illusions and projections of the people I loved, rather than addressing and seeing my true needs and what I was seeking thereby seeing the true being and who they were. I became more angry and disappointed with myself for all the times I let go of my instinct and did not trust it; and for all the times when I did not stand up for my rights or own my voice and power.

The betrayal of me came from my own injuries. Some of them go back to my childhood and here I am still working them out in my adult life.  Suddenly, the anger and the disappointment I felt towards myself transformed into deep love and affection right down to the vulnerable part of me that was acting out of pain, for I understood that pain and its source. Fluctuating the self and punishing it for all the wrong we have done is so much easier than loving it.  But then again, there cannot be healing, true healing, without love.  And I had to consciously go into love to heal myself from the time I had betrayed myself. In order to heal and love, one has to forgive. We must forgive even when not asked for forgiveness. Is it too much to ask to forgive those who have not asked for forgiveness? I don’t think so. The more I forgive the more I get blessed from the Divine, just as the Divine had showered mercy upon me innumerable times.

Finally, I calmed down regarding the saying, rested in it, accepted it and understood why we need to do it.  It’s the only way we can heal ourselves and let the self be free of all resentments, anger, pain, and hurt.  People hurt each other out of their own pain just as we hurt ourselves out of our own pain.  So only when we release ourselves from that pain, see it, love it and forgive it, can we truly love the essence of the self in its most beautiful aspect and also in the aspect we are most embarrassed of, our own shadows, for that is the true meaning of love. 

If they betrayed me out of their pain just as I betrayed myself out of my pain then I can understand, sympathize and I can love without needs or expectations but for what it is and what that person is, without any illusions or projections. I still believe that only when we tell the truth can there be true healing, I also understand that it takes much courage to tell that truth and sometimes it will entail me revealing the most insecure, frightened aspects of ourselves.  I can only go through this process for myself.  I cannot expect it at all from others.  To each his or her own.  But there is no harm if anyone could try it. For me, it is a journey of love.  For I believe love is bigger than all.  And love to forgive is the only true healer for resentments, anger, pain, and hurt.

Don’t get me wrong when I ask you to forbid revenge, hate, destruction and jealousy when someone betrays. These are the arsenals many use to satisfy their devilish designs. Try to forgive the betrayer even if they don’t deserve it. That is the only way you and me can heal. Now to the question:  Is it possible to love those who betrayed us?  Absolutely  a big YES!  I LOVE each and every single one of them who betrayed me.

 You can move on in this world if you forgive and bless them and please believe in yourself." ~ Anthony Sunny Kunneth

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How to be happy?

SUNDAY SOLILOQUY:

"How to be happy? This is the last week’s question I promised to answer you all. So here I am answering that question.

It’s more than a little comforting to know that people can become happier, that pessimists can become optimists, and that stressed and negative brains can be trained to see more possibility.” – Shawn Achor

Researchers have found that all of us have a kind of happiness baseline–that we have a typical amount of happiness during our lives. However, with the right effort we can INCREASE our happiness baseline:

No matter who you are, what your experiences are, or how you think, you can learn how to be happy–and it is absolutely a learned skill set.

Change Your Mindset: Happiness doesn’t just happen to you. Happiness is a lifestyle etched deep in attitudes and positive emotions that you have built over time.

Certain daily rituals will positively bring happiness. Each of these activities listed below not only gives us a quick boost of positive emotions, improving our performance and focus in the moment; but if performed habitually over time, each has been shown to help permanently raise our happiness baseline.

1. When you meditate, even just five minutes a day, it rewires your brain to raise our levels of happiness, lower stress, and improve immune function.

2. Write a thank you email to an employee, a friend or even a family member. Not necessarily an email; even saying it personally will have the same effect.

3. Set up something to look forward to–it can be as small as chocolate after lunch, seeing a friend this weekend or even scheduling a time from your busy life to wish your child or grandchild on his or her birthday. Knowing you have this coming up releases dopamine in your brain as if you are actually doing it. In other words, you benefit from the reward before actually getting the reward.

4. Commit conscious acts or deeds of kindness by doing one nice thing for someone every day. Buy a coffee for the person behind you in the drive-through or help someone else bag their groceries at checkout.

5. Make your environment inspiring. How can you infuse positivity into your surroundings? Is it a beautiful pen? A nice mid-day walk? A better ringtone? Make an effort to surround yourself with things that make you smile.

6. Exercise whenever you can–I know we have heard this one before. But even small walks a few times a week results in significant improvements in mental health.

7. Spend on experiences. Research shows that spending money on experiences and activities rather than on material purchases makes us happier in the moment and over time. Look at your credit card statement over the past month- what did you spend more on? I don’t mean to bankrupt yourself financially but spend caring for your personal development. How would you feel when you learn or elevate your skillset? Of course, any successful learning of skillsets will trigger the release of dopamine in the brain resulting in happy moments. Writing, singing, playing a game you love are all means of triggering those moments of happiness.

I also find sharing positive experiences with others strengthens our relationship with them. This is because emotions are contagious, so when you’re happy it makes other people feel good too; and those feelings then create a sense of togetherness that helps you connect on a deeper level. We all want to be happier and live more fulfilling lives. The question is: How? We pursue success, relationships, hobbies, etc. but what do you do when it still feels like something is missing?

The answer is in your thoughts.

A growing body of research has found that practicing grateful thinking is key to being happier, healthier and having better relationships. The hardest part of practicing gratitude is remembering to do it. This is why I recommend using a helpful tool called a gratitude totem. This is something that triggers a moment of gratitude. It can be a person, a specific time, an object, etc., and whenever you see it you take a moment to reflect on all the things you’re grateful for. Invite your family and friends to join you in practicing gratitude by sharing what you’re grateful for with each other. Many in the West attend weekend parties but how many do say a gratitude prayer either at the beginning of the party or even a thanksgiving prayer at the end. None I suppose. While in the East like in my country, how many of them do the same at a family or a friendship reunion. None I presume. Not even at mealtime.

Different cultures have different methods. Know which tradition cultivates a sense of gratitude and when? If there is one, cultivate that to be practiced daily till it becomes a ritual.

There is a more important point to be specifically addressed now before coming to any concrete conclusions. Is to possible to be truly happy? Possible? NO.

Happiness is a very subjective term. It differs from person to person. It is all about one's perception of looking at the situation.

For me, happiness is enjoying every moment, be it good or bad. You must be thinking as to whether am I mad or what to say that you need to enjoy bad moments. You must be thinking about how one can be happy in bad or tough times.

Of course, not! That's why I said at the very beginning that it is not possible to be truly happy. One doesn’t cherish bad or tough times. Even in good times, you are not truly happy. You crave more and more happiness. You want more success. Happiness is such a thing only that will never be satisfied. You start thinking of your next moment of happiness or the other things which are affecting your life. And this is why one would never be really or truly happy even in good times, forget about bad times.

But yes, if you want to live life to the fullest, you need to find happiness in every small thing, even during times of adversities.

In my life, I enjoy every small thing the way it comes. I still remember when I watched a movie in the theatre for the first time after my graduation. I was super happy. I was not truly happy because I didn't enjoy these things earlier but still I was happy. I found happiness when in 1969 for the first time I cycled around Bangalore Cantonment side and its suburbs just to feel it. I never traveled around places in the early days of my life here for some reasons and that was hurting but yes I wanted to enjoy my present. I got my first odd job after a lot of struggle. I still didn't get what I wanted but yes I was still the if not truly happy because it was a sigh of relief. That relief on the face of my family members who struggled to make me what I am today was the ultimate reason for me to be happy if not truly happy.

I still remember the days when going to the restaurant was like a big thing while at college, a once in a blue moon opportunity. But yes, once I got a job, it is no more a big deal. But still to recollect those tough days and seeing your parents having good times is what makes me happy and as I said earlier not truly happy because my parents didn't enjoy life earlier when they wanted to.

You would be happy if you remember your struggle. You would be happy if you understand how blessed you are. You would be happy if you understand the pain of others who struggle to get even two times bread and butter in their daily life. To be truly happy is difficult if not impossible. But yes, to be happy is very much possible.

On a lighter note, I get happy even when I get to see my old crush but am not truly happy because she is not my girlfriend or my better-half. Did you get my message now?

So just chill. Be happy and enjoy life even if you are not truly happy by following these tenets

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Try to be happy and not truly happy is the last I would suggest to anyone in all honesty. I believe it is a wise suggestion.

Most importantly it would be very appropriate and wise, therefore, to have a small 5 minutes session for saying a gratitude prayer at an appropriate convenient time, like when you open your eyes in the morning to wake up from deep slumber. This will make you feel energetic and keep your whole day ahead with positive energies. Starting the day with the right foot will keep you in the right direction. A ripple sort of effect will be created in all the things you do and all the other gestures, words and deeds I mentioned will fall into the right place when you practice regularly. Strictly adhering to these rituals awaken the positive energies and harmonizes with that of the cosmos.

Try it for a week, I promise it will make you happy and have a very positive effect to your body, soul and of course it will create the positive emotions that you deserve" ~

Anthony Sunny Kunneth

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Where do you find "Happiness" and why it is so elusive?

 SUNDAY SOLILOQUY:

"Where do you find happiness?

True happiness is a sense of peace and a feeling of complete and utter contentment and relaxation, without fear, despair, loathing, sadness, and frustration. True happiness comes from within and can be spread through positive interactions to put a glow in the lives of others as they search for a way towards it themselves. It is possible to find true happiness. There is no special trick. You just need to free yourself and take off, fly to the precipice of the mountain and view what is around you objectively, only to realize the whole picture and snap out of the vicious cycles you have been trapped in during your life.

What do "Spiritual Enlightenment" mean to me?

 

SUNDAY SOLILOQUY:

The concept of spiritual enlightenment sits at the core of a number of religious and traditional spiritual practices, from Buddhism to Hinduism, Jainism to Zoroastrianism, and even (though not termed in the same way) to many other religions, including Islam, Christianity, and Judaism, among others. It is also a common concept in alternative spiritual practices throughout the world, both religious and secular. There is a great deal of debate and different schools of thought on exactly what enlightenment is, and how to achieve enlightenment – indeed, philosophies vary considerably in this regard.

Is ego our enemy or friend?

“The ego is the worst confidence trickster we could ever imagine.” — Dr. Yoav Dattilo.

“The ego is a way of organizing oneself; it comes from the intellect as the mind starts to click in.” — Mark Epstein

“Is ego our enemy or friend?

We usually associate the word ‘ego’ with being arrogant, proud, or selfish. However, our ego is a different thing — it magnifies either our best or worst side. That’s why the ego is the worst confidence trickster: we end buying the exaggerated version of ourselves.

When someone you loved is no more shed tears of joy, not of grief

“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.“– Kahlil Gibran

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” – Kenji Miyazawa

"It is important for us to know that we and those around us are not going to be here forever.

This may sound brutal, but that is not the intention. It is very important to come to terms with these things. Otherwise, we will tell ourselves pretty things that will solace us for today, and tomorrow morning, reality will torment us again. We will do the same things again and again.

Do you embody yourselves with love and forgiveness that truly clothes you with spiritual light?

Being good and doing good in the world is living gracefully with a purpose. Forgiving ourselves and others continuously - without getting caught in the senses (which normally lie to the mind) or our ego - is the highest action one can commit awesomely while embodied with the Divinity in us.

By living in Love and Forgiveness, we can ensure that the Spiritual Light of God does shine on the Earth; where there is Light, there cannot be darkness.

Can you shun your anger for constructive purposes? Find out......

In my earlier post regarding anger I have tried my best to draw your attention to the consequences of anger. In this post you will discover the prime facets of your character hidden in your anger which you can turn around to build the strategies benefiting you.

Anger as an emotion can be both constructive and destructive. When it is constructive it can spur us into motion and lead us to prove the other person wrong the right way without
hurting his or her self-esteem.

How do you deal with your anger? Do you explode?

"The embarrassment after the anger is biggest humiliation a person can experience."

"How do you deal with your anger? Do you explode? Does everyone around you know when and why you are angry? Or are you more subtle? Do you get irritated and short with those around you? Do you gossip and complain about your spouse, children, coworkers, and friends? What makes you angry?

Discover how to practice honesty and integrity!

"Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people." ~ Dennis Prager

"Someone asked for opinions about the difference between integrity and honesty. Honesty and integrity are linked but while honesty relies heavily on facts and objective information or situations, integrity relies more on subjectivity and circumstances in which a person finds himself, knowing how to behave or react in order to retain integrity and good will and meet expectations.

I believe that the inherent human quest for love and happiness is itself the greatest proof of God's existence within us.

“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ~ Paulo Coelho

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~ Maya Angelou

“The religions of the world are like the separate fingers and are quite distinct from each other. But if you trace them to their

The truly great are those who know their weaknesses and aren't afraid to admit them.

ONLY THE STRENGTH THAT YOU CAME TO POSSESS BY DIVINE INTERVENTION CAN TAKE YOU TO THE PLACES YOU DESERVE!

“When one realises the infinite greatness and glory of God, where is there room for self-pride? Only by whose nod the heaven, earth and sea obey eternal laws should be called King"

"Some people are compulsive exhibitionists. You can find them almost anywhere; they would do anything to get noticed. At a wedding, they want to be the bride and at a funeral, the corpse.

Does pursuit of the things that we so desire result in lasting happiness?

“True religion is real living; living with all one's soul, with all one's goodness and righteousness.” ~ Albert Einstein

“The values a man must cherish as his life-breath are, Truth, Righteousness, Peace, Love and Non violence.” ~ Sri Sathya Sai Baba

DOES PURSUIT OF THE THINGS THAT WE SO DESIRE RESULT IN LASTING HAPPINESS?

Honestly, are you living a life that fills you with enthusiasm and passion?

“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”~ Mother Teresa

“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.”~ Mother Teresa 

“Contrary to what some people believe, there are people who follow their bliss and do what they love. They seem to have things that they share in common. They really know how to spread the love around and they understand the impact their behavior has on others. Now the question is are you sharing love and happiness?

Don’t be conditioned to loose...my dear friend!

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

“There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances

Have I ever felt lonely before? Have I ever been alone before? These are often the questions we ask ourselves.

“We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.” ~ Orson Welles

“The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” ~ Mother Teresa

ALONE and LONELINESS:
“Have I ever felt lonely before? Have I ever been alone before? These are often the questions we ask ourselves or rather feel when faced with grief and losses in life, of course, that includes me too! In fact, I have been leading a solitary life for the past 23 years or so, after my relationship with my wife turned sour and finally split when she left me with my daughter and son. For the first few years, I did feel unhappy with the sudden turn of events that changed the course of my life, from being a loving father and a loyal husband to a nonentity to everyone in my family, except my parents. It was my parents who stood stoically with me, consoling and encouraging me to live life with a purpose. And I thank them for lifting me up from the depression I was sinking into when I was being torn with grief and emotional pain. I have lost my father in 1995 and my mother passed away 5 years later. I miss them very much but not their love for me. And thus I endeavored to walk the solitary path alone in my life, which most of them would abhor naturally, they were social in nature. 

Somehow I fell in love with being alone, for I got more time to indulge myself in my favourite past times, like day-dreaming, reading, writing, cooking, gardening and now exploring life to the fullest. I loved being alone and still, love it more than ever.
They say, sailing at night out on the ocean, following the full moon in the countryside is a spiritual experience. While for me biking through the hilly terrain is magical, riding my motorcycle up and down the Brigade road is exhilarating, sometimes even doing a cross country between two states in India ups my adrenalin and reading books by my favourite authors or even listening to Indian classical music or old English country songs till the wee hours of the morning are some of the very things I love doing alone and none of that would have been possible if someone else had been there with me. People create noise in your head that we all need to escape from time to time. I know I do. And that is what I love……..to be alone.

Unfortunately lately, I fell sick and many of my friends would have noticed the recent absence of my ‘Sunday Soliloquy’s column. It is then; I realized that with ‘Alone’ comes the dreaded ‘Loneliness’. Being sick with typhoid for a longer duration than I expected, two months precisely and no one to tend to me, I felt that no one cared for me or so. The whole world became dark for me as if I have been cast to oblivion with a shroud upon me. Someone once said that loneliness is not simply a matter of feeling alone, but rather the feeling that no one cares what happens to you. We have all felt lonely sometime in our lifetime. Feelings of rejection and abandonment are common to all of us creating fear of unwanted in our minds.

Loneliness is caused by many things: the death of loved one, divorce or separation, a broken engagement, a career loss or change or a move from one city or country to another can all make us feel lonely. Leaving what is comfortable and familiar and moving into the unknown can be lonely. Loneliness is a tragedy; it is heartbreak and hardship and hurt. Loneliness is being covered in open wounds and scars that never heal. Loneliness, after the loss of a loved one, is a depressing, devastating emotional catastrophe. Some people will try anything to break through the "wall of loneliness." Others just wait, hoping the wall will collapse so they can escape. The waiting period becomes an "isolation ward."

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I have always rather enjoyed the former; the latter is miserable. Being alone is choosing to stand a little apart, to enjoy one's own company and the company of things - books, nature, thoughts, music, silence - rather than people. loneliness is not a choice, it is rejection; it is what happens when you no longer want to be alone, but no one will enter your little corner of the world to keep you company - and the knowledge proceeds to poison the kind of aloneness you might otherwise, enjoy, because you are no longer choosing it, it is being forced on you by your own invisibility.

In today's society, there is a strong trend towards separation. Looking at statistics I found that more and more relationships are crumbling at breakneck speed. More and more people are becoming permanently alone. In surveys, about 10 percent of singles perceive themselves to be happy, 40 percent feel unhappy, and 50 percent see themselves in the middle. For people who are in a partnership, up to 40 percent feel happy, 10 percent unhappy and 50 percent place themselves in between feeling happy and unhappy.

These results show that people respond differently to loneliness. Some people feel happy as singles, some unfortunate; most live in the area between. However, there are four times more unhappy single people than people in a partnership. And most singles suffer from loneliness. So how do you cope in this situation?

The following steps work for both singles and people in relationships. Also, it's important to recognize that even people in relationships can feel lonely sometimes. Working toward ‘Inner Happiness’, can benefit each of us, especially singles who perceive being alone as a source of unhappiness.

So how can we go about and overcome these failings? Here they are broken down into easy practices:
1. Process the loss of your partner. The first major step towards leading a positive single life is to overcome the loss of a former partner. Most people have had one or more relationships. The longer these relationships have lasted, and the more intense they were, the longer is the time needed to process through the sadness and negative emotions associated with the loss. Live your grief completely. If you repress your grief, it will dig further into your subconscious. Subconsciously, most of us long for a happy, enduring relationship. It helps to look at the thoughts present inside. Cry over your loss and reflect on the essence of life, so that you may come back to positive thoughts again. And how you do that? Get over the situation by directly confronting it. Talk with other trustworthy people about your suffering.

2. Think Positively. The way of positive thinking is to think about the meaning of life, to focus on positive goals and to overcome grief with positive thoughts and phrases.

3. Meditate. The way of meditation allows all of our thoughts and feelings to come out. Let your thoughts and feelings come and go at will. Just observe. Leave them be until they settle of their own accord.

4. Connect meditation and positive thinking. If we only meditate, we can easily sink into sadness. Positive thinking can lead to the suppression of sorrowful thoughts and inner tensions. If we make room to connect both meditation and positive thinking at the same time, our tensions will resolve. Inner happiness appears.

5. View single life as an opportunity rather than as a curse. Consider your single life as an opportunity for intensive growth to inner happiness. Make the path of inner happiness the center of your life while this chance exists. There are many people among couples who would jump at such freedom! The person who sees things clearly focuses things right in life. And then the single life suddenly becomes a godsend. Being lonely gives you the freedom to take rests. Allowing your rest periods to connect with regular spiritual practice lights up your way to enlightenment. Remember that deep inner happiness (enlightenment) is difficult to achieve when you live in a relationship.

6. Develop a spiritual plan for each day. A spiritual plan is the means for being victorious over boredom and the loss of meaning of life. With a spiritual plan in place, your days are now filled. Having such a schedule gives your single life a positive structure. It gives you inner strength and positivity, and you live based on positive goals. Thus, you will become internally positive.

7. Spend a part of your day in various phases of spiritual practice. Feelings such as loneliness, boredom, and meaninglessness are caused by internal tensions. These tensions block the energy of your happiness (enlightenment energy). Everyone has enlightenment energy within. Find spiritual exercises like yoga, walking, meditation, reading, and positive thinking (cognitive work) that can awaken your happiness every day. Go for it!

8. Distribute your spiritual exercises over the day. Doing so will ensure that your tensions dissolve, you became care-free, hurt fades, past associations become painless giving you multiple opportunities to awaken your happiness energy, and bringing you into the light.

9. Practice Karma yoga. The main practice of Karma Yoga is to send light to all beings every day through your words and deeds. Connect yourself with your friends every day. Connect yourself with all beings who touch you emotionally. Think their names. Move a hand and send them love and light. Send light all over the globe. Wish for all people in the word to be happy. It allows you to overcome your loneliness and go on to a deeper level to get into the energy of the all-comprehensive love. Wish happiness to all beings. In your mind, you are already seeing the goal of a happy world realized. Live with a positive vision; this gives you the power for a positive life. Your positive vision opens the gates of happiness within you. Wish for a happy world. Wish a happy cosmos. Breakthrough your isolation as a single. Live in constant emotional contact with all other beings in the world. At some point, you’re feeling of loneliness will disappear and YOU will become the embodiment of SELFLESS – LOVE itself. An entity is full of love, which will not only give but also receive love, like the mirror that receives and reflects light. Yes, a miracle of love itself will manifest in you, always capable of propagating compassion and kindness to others in the world you are living in.

Living alone is the hardest way of life. It is difficult for most of us to live alone. But life as a single person gives us a big chance to attain enlightenment. Use this chance; realize yourself and become an enlightened single. Enlightenment is a great grace for all singles. You are not lost. You can also get enlightenment in a relationship. Be satisfied that living alone usually offers significantly a greater chance of reaching the goal. You can live permanently as a single person in a happiness that is unimaginable for ordinary people. Let me tell you this……the main happiness of a human being is his or her inner happiness, and 90 percent of all happiness is derived from inner happiness, and this determines how happy a person is in life. Loneliness if accepted becomes a gift leading one from a life dominated by tears to the discovery of one's true self and finally to the heart of longing and the love of God. Can you override your grief and pain to happiness for the sheer love of God and your well being? I promise you can.

While wishing all the best, I send warm hugs with divine love spiritual lights, joy and peace all the way from me!

Anthony Sunny Kunneth.

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PERCEPTION AND REALITY OF YOUR LIFE:

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” ~ Albert Einstein

“Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” ~ Douglas Adams

"Our conscious perception of the world, though relatively stable, is not static. We are incapable of being fully objective, even in our most mundane observations and impressions. Our awareness of the objects around us is informed and fine-tuned by any number of transient factors—our strength and energy levels, our sense of confidence, our fears and desires.

When you knew how to speak, what was your first word? It is Mom

“My mother said I must always be intolerant of ignorance but understanding of illiteracy. That some people, unable to go to school, were more educated and more intelligent than college professors.” ~ Maya Angelou

“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

"When you knew how to speak, what was your first word? It is Mom. We have grown up in the arms of our mothers. We have grown up in the great love of our mothers. No one loves us like our mothers; no one is willing to sacrifice everything for us like

Your dedication will not be a sacrifice. It will be an exhilarating experience.

“Every charitable act is a stepping stone toward heaven.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher

“The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.” ~ Hade Bejar 

“When we talk about values, I think of love, fairness, kindness, generosity and tolerance occupying the top of my list. That’s something I value and hold in high esteem rather than things like going to church, attaining higher education, voting for Bush, being loyal to Jesus, praying. These are not values. These are mere camouflage

How many times dressed in our best attires we have pictured ourselves in front a mirror? And what did you see?

"There is more in us than we ever known. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives we will be unable to settle for less". ~ Kurt Hahn

"How many times dressed in our best attires we have pictured ourselves in front a mirror? Probably we don’t remember the number of times we have done that and probably we were not aware of the beautiful soul that