"A desire to be observed,
considered, esteemed, praised, beloved, and admired by his fellows is one of
the earliest as well as the keenest dispositions discovered in the heart of
man." ~ John Adams.
"Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few
desires." ~ Lao Tzu.
they can never be fulfilled. You go on and on working hard for them, and they remain unfulfilled, and you remain empty. And from this complexity arises two major emotions in every human being….happiness and sadness. The more desires you have, the more misery you will create for yourself. Misery is a consequence of desiring -- and you go on desiring without knowing the outcome. In fact, you think that if your desires are fulfilled your miseries will disappear. In the first place they are never fulfilled; in the second place, if they are fulfilled, nothing is fulfilled by their fulfillment. You remain as empty as you have always been -- or even more, because up to now you were occupied with a certain desire; now even that is fulfilled. A deep, very deep emptiness unfolds in your life.
You have to take the responsibility totally, that it is you who decides either to be in misery or to be in blessing. If you want misery, have more desires. If you want blissfulness, then learn the art -- even for few moments -- of being desireless, and you will be surprised. Even for a few moments, if you are desireless, all anguish, all anxiety disappears. And you are so contented, so fulfilled, that you cannot ask for more. Your blessing is so much that you can only say that you bless the whole existence. Still it will be there. It is so much; it is overflowing. Ego brings unnatural desires in you; it drives you crazy. Life is simple, but to be simple one has to be purposeless as far as desires are concerned. Any superficial goal can't be simple. Any such goal will rock you to sadness. Any goals that are unattainable means you are on the way out of happiness ----- you cannot enjoy this moment, the grace of this moment, and the benediction of present.
See what your misery is, what desires are causing it, and why you are clinging to those desires. And it is not for the first time that you are clinging to those desires; if this has been the pattern of your whole life you have not arrived anywhere near happiness. You go on in circles; you never come to any real growth. You remain childish, stupid. Remember that you are born with the intelligence that can make you happy, but lost in unnecessary things because of your tall desires in life. If you have desires, try to analyse -- are those desires the cause of your misery? Nobody wants misery, but nobody is willing to drop the desires -- and they are often strung together, they cannot be separated. This is one of the greatest insights that has come from all the enlightened people in the world -- that desire is the root of all misery, while desirelessness is the cause of all that is beautiful and blissful. Desires are never here and so they are non-existential. They are just mental, in the mind. And they cannot be fulfilled because their very nature is to move into the future. Your desires are immense, almost infinite. Because of your desires life becomes a competition, and wherever and whenever there is competition, there is anxiety and angst; and at the end everybody is aware deep down there is death.
The moment you are free from all desires... remember, I repeat, ALL desires. The so-called religious, spiritual desires are included in it, nothing is excluded. All desires have to be dropped because every desire brings frustration, misery, boredom. If you succeed it brings boredom; if you fail it brings despair. If you are after money there are only two possibilities: either you will fail or you will succeed. If you succeed you will be bored with money. Primarily the whole blame goes to the parents. They have lived as ambitious beings; they have destroyed themselves. Now they go on giving their heritage to their children -- their unfulfilled desires, their incomplete ambitions. In this way disease of sadness passes on from one generation to another.
Every child is being destroyed by his own people. They don't know consciously what they are doing. Parents are projecting their own unfulfilled desires onto their children. The father wanted to be a doctor but could not; he ended up being something else. He could not pass the examinations and became just a chemist, but he imposes the desire to become a doctor onto his son. He sends him to school with great hope that his child will achieve what he could not achieve. He is doing it all out of his unconscious love, but unconscious love is not love -- it is blind. With all good intentions, it does harm. The child who is being forced to become a doctor, if he was left alone to grow according to his own nature... one never knows what kind of beauty or joy, what kind of individuality, he would have contributed to the world.
Why do you dream? -- Because there are so many desires unfulfilled, and to live with unfulfilled desires is painful. In dream you try to fulfill them; in dream you create a false feeling of fulfillment. Hence your dreams show much about you: what your desires are, what you want to become. There are urges and urges; you are exploding with urges, desires. You don't have one desire, you have many desires. Not only that you have many desires, you have contradictory desires. If one is fulfilled, the other which is its contradiction remains unfulfilled and you are in misery. If the other is fulfilled, then something else remains unfulfilled. Only those people are really sane who have transcended the mind, who have gone beyond it into silence where no thoughts, no desires, no emotions, nothing exists. Only in that peace is your real happiness.
All desires distract you from the present, all desires distract you from life, all desires are destructive of life, and all desires are postponements of life. Life is now and the desire takes you away, farther and farther away from now. And when we see that our life is in misery we go on throwing the responsibility on others but remember nobody is responsible except us.
The moment one starts sharing one's being without any motive life becomes a sweet fragrance. It is all honey. Then everything remains the same, yet nothing is the same any more. When your heart beats in harmony, in love, in joy, when you are no longer greedy you attain happiness. When there are no desires and no ambitions, and when there are no ego trips any more, one is simply, ordinary, but very sweet to your mind, body and soul. That bliss which every mortal man desires becomes godly and divine.
Now don’t get me wrong when I say that you should not desire. Desire only to that extent which fulfills your needs and those of others. Let your mind desire to achieve those goals that are beneficial not only for you but others too. Such desires often fulfills your needs as well as of others. Never contemplate to achieve success for self. That becomes a selfish attitude; rather desire success for others, which in turn can get success aplenty for you too. If your desires are beneficial for your brethren only, take solace your hard battles to achieve those goals makes you a success. When your desires are filled with love, kindness and compassion for others you are in harmony with your divine self, others and the universe.
So much is involved in it that you will be born anew; you will have a new life if you go through all this transformation; that's itself becomes the ultimate adventure. Getting out of the undesirable desires is the only challenge worth accepting. Getting beyond greedy desires of the mind is the most arduous but the most beautiful journey too, because it is through this journey that you come back home with ultimate happiness and self satisfaction.”
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